This generation of Eighties kids has been labeled several things over the years. Interestingly enough they were labeled the Generation X or the Millennial Kids. This generation has been stuck with the reputation of being the most confused generation ever. Not only are the kids misunderstood because of the stereotyping involved but the parents are suffering too.
When dealing with children, teens, and young adults from Generation X (or 1982′ and up) there are a few hints that can keep things flowing smoothly in your home. Just because society is claiming the X-kids are confused and unappreciative does not make the issue untouchable. A few simple principles can be implemented to increase the level of communication and understand between you and your X-kid(s). When you begin to realize that your child is not that much different from you then you have begun your connection already.
Most parents have a personal epidemic looming of the correcting-fever. Have the words “I’ve told you this before” or “I’m not telling you again” passed your lips? If so, then you have probably been guilty of correcting your child a little less then frugally. Make the same step of being consciously sparing with corrections and try to be more deliberate with affirmations. It is only natural that when you give compliments, and focus on the good things your child is doing, that the bad things automatically lessen. Children sometimes do bad things just to get attention, and good attention is better any day.
Try actively listening. Most teens have a deaf ear on most issues, especially during times of reprimand. But test this out: next time an issue comes up try asking, genuinely, what the original purpose of the action was and then really listen. Stop trying to give all of the parental, all-wise advice for once and listen to them. You may find that the underlying reason for some of their actions were based on things that can easily be altered or compromised on. Just listen. When your child feels understood the difference in attitude is amazing. Communication is a two-way street, and the idea is to first try and understand before demanding to be understood.